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13 Characteristics of A Wife of Noble Character in Today’s World

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A Wife of Noble Character

Wow. This biblical ideal wife can do everything, it seems! She gardens, cooks, sews clothing for her family, and drapes for her home. She helps the needy and is an entrepreneur, and she does it all while looking amazing. It’s easy to read this scripture and feel overwhelmed or defeated. I mean, HOW in the world can you do all of that with pets, work, kids and their activities and a needy husband? You may dismiss it altogether, thinking that being a Proverbs 31 woman just isn’t feasible in today’s society. 

How to Be A Wife of Noble Character in Today's World

Well, dear friend, I’m here to tell you that you CAN live a Proverbs 31 life, and it is what God wants from us as his daughters. Granted, we don’t have to plant our own fields (hey, we have grocery stores now) or sew our own clothes (hello? Macy’s!), but you can live a godly life pleasing to Him, in the image of the Proverbs 31 woman, in 2018. Now, there’s nothing wrong with planting a garden or sewing your own clothes. I have a huge garden that we enjoy the fruits of every year, but that’s really not what this is all about.

Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman

You may be wondering what IS a Proverbs 31 woman. Being a Proverbs 31 godly woman is about living a life that is one of ministry. It is putting God first and your husband second and everything, yes, even your children, after that. Living as a Proverbs 31 woman is about being industrious instead of idle.

The woman of noble character serves her husband, her family, and her community. It’s not about having a perfectly spotless home or wearing the latest fashions. Again, there is nothing wrong with those things, but it is a matter of putting your priorities in order.

And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.” – Ruth 3:11

The Bible uses the root word for “virtuous” or ‘excellent” four times to describe women. In one of my favorite books of the Bible, Ruth, Boaz says to Ruth: And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.” and in Proverbs 12:4 “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”

The original Hebrew word for virtuous is Chayil (khah’ – yil). It means a force, an army, strength, able, substance, worthy, capable, strong, valiant. Woah? What? I’m supposed to be strong and valiant, too? Yes, dear one, and you already are. God created you that way.

Let’s briefly look at the attributes of the wife of noble character:

1. A wife of noble character is worth far more than rubies

This isn’t about physical worth – how much we possess. This is about our identity in Christ. We can’t earn it, we are given it by the grace of God when we believe. Yes, we should emulate the description of the Proverbs 31 woman, but first and foremost, our value and identity are found in Jesus.

2. Her husband has full confidence in her.

Her husband has full confidence in her is one of the few lines that directly speak about the husband of the wife of noble character.

Our husbands need to trust us in the big and small things. How we manage the home and the resources God has blessed us with. How we disciple our children. We are to be selfless and reliable.

3. She works hard and is both industrious and resourceful

In much of Proverbs 31, specifically verses 13-23, we read of a woman who awakes early, ensures that everyone is properly clothed and fed, takes care of the finances and earns money, and even finds time to care for those in need.

Basically, she is diligent. The verses don’t say that her home is perfectly neat and clean, but she works hard to handle the responsibilities in and out of the home.

In today’s world, you might not need to sew your family’s clothes or milk the cow, but you take care that your family is clothed and fed and that things are (basically) in order.

4. She is a loving mother

The woman of noble character is a mother that teaches her children the ways of God. She nurtures them with love and trains them in their faith so they can grow up to be strong, faithful citizens of Christ’s kingdom.

A good mom not only has the patience to teach life lessons but also knows how to discipline well without being too harsh or lenient on our kids as they learn about what it means to live like Christians.

5. She is clothed with strength and dignity

The strength here is physical, emotional, and spiritual. But, dear friends, we can only find that strength through God. He is strong when we are weak.

A woman of noble character isn’t just strong; she is dignified.

Being strong means that often we are tough, but being dignified means that we are gentle and kind as well. It means we get to do life with people, see them as people, and show them love the way God loves us.

6. Her words are wise

This woman isn’t just smart; she is wise.

A wife of noble character is the type of woman who is able to make smart, wise decisions by relying on the wisdom that comes from above.

7. She gives instructions with kindness

Part of this incredible wisdom is the ability to speak in truth and love. This means sharing things that are hard to hear but doing it firmly and with kindness.

8. She works with willing hands

The wife of noble character is a woman who completes the tasks she is given willingly and without complaint. She always keeps her mind on God, singing praise to Him with every task completed.

9. She has strong faith in Christ

The woman of noble character is one who serves God with all her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows the ways he has set out before us in order to do so.

10. She is a good steward of her time and resources

The Proverbs 31 wife is thrifty, choosing quality over quantity. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks and does not spend time dwelling on things that do not please the Lord.

11. She cares for and serves others

A Virtuous Woman is a woman of love and kindness. One can see this from the way she serves others, her husband, family, friends, and neighbors with a gentle caring spirit. Charity knows no bounds for these women who would do anything to help those in need or even just lend an ear during times when they may be feeling low.

12. She is a respectful wife

The Proverbs 31 woman respects her husband, does him good all the days of his life, and is trustworthy. A helpmeet she may be, but first and foremost, a virtuous woman should seek to become the bride of Christ!

13. A Wife of Noble Character is a Virtuous Woman

A wife who is virtuous is able to take care of her home, is worthy, strong, serves and loves her husband, and is capable and industrious. Most notably, a virtuous wife is what her husband (not any other husband, but HER husband) needs. God created woman to be man’s helper. 

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

What the ideal woman is for YOUR husband is as unique as he is; Above all, the specifics of how to be a suitable helper to your husband are unique to him and your marriage; the concept is the same – a wife of noble character is her husband’s crown.

She Takes Care of Her Health

The Virtuous Woman takes care of her body, mind, and spirit. She cooks healthy food for her family to maintain a balanced diet.

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A Word About Love Languages as the Proverbs 31 Wife

Learning your husband’s love languages and serving him through those love languages is a great way to ensure that you are the Proverbs 31 wife that YOUR husband needs.

My husband’s love languages include gifts and acts of service. This isn’t saying that the only way to make him happy is to buy stuff for him. I’ll pick up his favorite snack at the grocery store or leave him a love note. Your husband may respond to words of affirmation or physical touch. The key is learning what your husband needs from his wife; this Proverbs 31 woman in his life.

(For more on the Proverbs 31 woman, see this post on working with willing hands)

We were created to be his helpmeet. What does your husband need in a modern Proverbs 31 woman? Have you asked him? I encourage you to pray about this and see what God reveals to you.

Certainly, ask your husband what he needs from you. You may learn that what you thought was important to him isn’t and that there are other things that he would rather you do. Husbands are funny creatures. When I asked my husband this question, he told me how much he appreciates my making his homemade sweet tea. He says that it shows how much I care for him. Really? Who knew that something so small (in my eyes) touched him so much?

What makes your husband unique? How can you be a crown to him and not decay in his bones? What are three things that you know your husband would appreciate you doing that you don’t already do or don’t do very often?

The form you have selected does not exist.

If you aren’t sure, spend some time this week asking God to reveal this to you.

For more resources on living the Proverbs 31 life, consider these book recommendations below:

Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be: A 90-Day Guide to Living the Proverbs 31 Life by Donna Partow

or my book, The Complete Proverbs 31 Wife:  A Verse by Verse Exploration of What it Means to Be a Proverbs 31 Woman in Today’s World.

Or check out a different perspective from Mary at Healthy Christian Home.

Bible Gateway also has a great commentary on a wife of noble character. You may wish to check it out.

Did you ever wonder why the Proverbs 31 woman gets a bad rep? Read about it here.

In His Love and Mine,


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