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How To Love Your Wife, As Jesus Loved His Church 5 Practical Tips

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When it comes to how to love your wife, we have a high calling from Jesus Christ that should compel us to strive for excellence in loving our wives.

While it’s easy to get caught up in the mundane details of everyday life, taking the time to consider what kind of husband you want to be can be incredibly powerful. In this blog post, I’m going to share with you five practical tips on how best you can show love for your wife as Jesus showed his beloved church:

Communication, Quality Time Together, Intimacy & Affection, Celebrations & Serving Her Sacrificially.

As Christian men, we are called not just to mere complacency nor some iconic representation but rather into a challenging mission-able relationship founded upon unconditional love and adoration—one where grace abounds over every pitfall and promises found in scripture become unforgettable moments of joy between partners that remain embodied through eternal faithfulness.

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How To Love Your Wife-Communication

A wicked messenger falls into trouble,
    but a faithful envoy brings healing.

Proverbs 13:17 (ESV)

Communication is such a powerful tool to show your wife how much you love her. When communicating with our spouses, we must be kind and gentle while avoiding harsh or angry words. Jesus models this perfectly in how he communicates with his church; rather than being demanding, he shows us compassion and mercy.

Communication is vital when it comes to expressing how much we care and ensuring that our wives feel comfortable sharing their feelings and thoughts with us. Every relationship requires effort on both sides, and communication helps strengthen the bond between husband and wife.

How To Love Your Wife-Time Together

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

Ephesians 5:25 (ESV)

Quality time with our wives is an integral part of how we show them love. It’s how we create the connection that keeps marriages strong and healthy. And, when done correctly, we learn how much each partner truly cares for the other.

We can’t go wrong when following Christ’s example of offering our undivided attention, hearing her concerns earnestly, and praying for her needs and our relationship.

 Quality time spent with your wife in this way can provide a support system that allows you to get through difficult times together more efficiently and build a lasting bond over time.

We can learn how to love our wives by taking examples of how Jesus showed love. Whether it’s by being patient, understanding, kind, or gentle, we can demonstrate and show these same qualities when spending quality time with our spouse.

We want to put our spouse first and be fully present when we are together, training ourselves to love them better as Christ did. Taking moments to do special activities like playing games or having simple conversations will allow us to remain connected in a meaningful way.

Quality time with my wife is how I try to love her as Jesus does. When I put away all the distractions and focus on her, she can feel I am truly there for her. I understand her feelings without making assumptions and take the time to share my feelings.

It’s such a simple thing to do – listening, encouraging, validating – but it goes a long way in building trust between us and helping us feel connected. My goal is always to ensure that we both honor God in how we treat each other and strive to love each other as closely as possible as Jesus loves us.

How To Love Your WifeIntimacy & Affection

The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (ESV)

Intimacy and affection may be one of the best ways to show how much you love your wife, so it’s essential to find how that works for both of you. The Bible even talks about how the marriage relationship requires a “one-flesh” union.

Showing your wife how much you love her through physical expression can be an effective way to nurture and grow your bond. And these moments can bring so much joy – from holding hands or cuddling on the couch to passionate kisses and intimate moments of closeness.

No matter how you express it, intimacy and affection with your wife is a beautiful gift from God meant for both of you to enjoy. So make sure to take the time to bask in the special moments and soak up how amazingly loving it feels!

How To Love Your WifeCelebrations

 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

1 Peter 3:7

If you’re looking for how to love your wife, consider celebrations a great way to show her how much she means to you. While showing gratitude is easy, taking time out of the day to pause and celebrate can be a powerful symbol. And who better to guide you than Jesus?

He celebrated the good news with his disciples, showing how important it is for us to acknowledge life’s joys (no matter how small). Celebrations don’t need to be extravagant or complicated—tell her how much she means to you with a dinner date, a surprise gift, or just carve out some quality time together. Loving our wives doesn’t have to be complicated; Jesus shows us how through celebrating.

How To Love Your Wife-Serving Her Sacrificially

“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.

John 15:12

Jesus had such a profound and sacrificial love for others, and how He served them can show us how to love our wives. Serving her sacrificially is one way to show how much you appreciate her. It could be something small like going out of your way to make a cup of coffee or something more extensive like doing an errand or task you know she doesn’t enjoy.

Consistently doing things for her that require some effort will demonstrate how much you care about your wife and how highly you value her. Jesus has shown us how to do this—if we learn from Him, we can express our love in the best way possible regarding how we treat our wives.

How To Love Your Wife-Wrapping it up

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant  or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

1 Corinthians 13 4-5

These five ways are not exhaustive but will give you a good starting point to loving your wife more. We must realize that we love our wives because Christ first loved us. When we see how God sacrificially loves us, it gives us an example to follow in our own lives. We need to be intentional about pursuing and showing love to our wives. Sometimes this requires sacrifice on our part, but it is always worth it when we see the joy it brings them. So today, start choosing to love your wife more. Pursue her intentionally and selflessly as Christ pursued his Church.

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