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One of the greatest gifts that you can give your husband is prayer. Regularly, daily, you should be praying for your husband.
Praying for your husband is something most wives do, however, in talking with other wives, I’ve found that most of the time we pray for our husbands, it’s during a time of difficulty or crisis. Praying for your husband during a time of need is always a good thing, but I would argue that it’s even more important to pray for your husband during times of smooth sailing. In fact, I believe that you should be praying for your husband every day.
When we pray for our husbands, many benefits result including:
Why Should You Pray for Your Husband?
To Remind Us of Our Marital Relationship
Yes, yes, I know that we always know that we are married, but praying for your husband shines light on the intimate relationship we have with our spouses. Who knows your husband better than you? (except God, of course!) You know when something is troubling him and what his weaknesses are. The enemy goes after those weaknesses, but through prayer, we can fight the enemy and ask God to put a hedge of protection around your husband, avoiding temptation.
To Grow Closer in our Relationships with God and Your Husband
A strong Christian marriage must have God at the center. Praying for your husband will strengthen your relationship with God, the Father as well as your husband. When we focus intently on our husbands in prayer, we are opening our hearts to God on their behalf.
Prayer Softens our Hearts
Marriage has it’s ups and downs. We all know that. We, at times, get angry with our husbands or have times of resentment. When you pray for your husband, God is softening your heart toward him. Sometimes I find myself praying for God to change my husband in certain ways. But when I go before the Lord in humble prayer, my heart softens and I find my strong, prideful opinion soften as well.
Prayer Helps Your Husband and Builds Him Up
We know that God is faithful and, if we go to Him on behalf of our husbands, we know that God will work in him. Prayer “girds his loins” for the battle of everyday life.
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Praying for Your Husband
So, we know that praying for your husband is good, but sometimes it’s just hard to do. Outside of praying for him during a time of crisis, what do we pray about? How do we pray?
I have the book The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. I keep it on my nightstand. I try to, most days, open to a page and start praying for my husband in areas including:
- His health
- His work
- His friendships
- His faith
Prayers for Your Husband
There are dozens, maybe hundred of prayers that you could pray for your husband (outside of pleading to God when something goes wrong or your husband facing a difficult challenge). The below are everyday prayers for your husband.
1) Go before God in prayer to help your husband succeed in his work.
Most men identify strongly with their professions. God has created them to be the hunters and gatherers (I cover this in detail in my book, The God Centered Marriage). Pray for him to reach his work goals, for his next career move, for him to learn and succeed at his job.
But remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your ancestors, as it is today. – Deuteronomy 8:18
2) Ask to God to help your husband overcome any problems he may face.
Whether it’s a difficult boss or co-worker, financial difficulty the temptation to sin or a struggle with self-doubt, ask God to give him the faith and strength to overcome it.
God is our refuge and strength,
an ever-present help in trouble.
Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way
and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,
though its waters roar and foam
and the mountains quake with their surging. – Psalm 46
3) Appeal to God to draw your husband into a closer relationship with God.
Ask God to give your husband a hunger for a relationship with Christ. Pray for this everyday and trust that the Holy Spirit will empower your husband in every area of his life.
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud
but shows favor to the humble.”
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. – James 4:6-10
4) Go to the Father and ask for Him to protect your marital bond.
God brought the two of you together and blessed your union through the covenant of marriage that He created. Ask God to protect your bond. To keep each other’s thoughts and eyes focused on the other. Ask Him to remove any temptation or untoward thoughts. Ask God to put a hedge of protection around you, your husband and God – the three cord strand.
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:12
5) Ask God to let you view your husband through His eyes
God sees your husband as a wonderful, amazing man. His own creation. As humans, we are flawed. We get on each other’s nerves. Ask God to let you see your husband the way He sees him.
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7
6) Appeal to God to keep your husband safe from harm.
Go to the Father ask ask that He keeps your husband safe while traveling to work and at work and everywhere he goes. Ask God to bring him home safe to you every day. Ask God to walk ahead of him and keep him safe physically, emotionally and spiritually.
But let all who take refuge in you be glad;
let them ever sing for joy.
Spread your protection over them,
that those who love your name may rejoice in you. – Psalm 5:11
7) Pray that the Lord will give your husband godly friends.
Ask our Heavenly Father to surround your husband with other men who are striving to be Christlike; those who pursue the Father. Who we spend our time with has great influence in our life.
As iron sharpens iron,
so one person sharpens another. – Proverbs 27:17
8) Pray for a hedge of protection for your husband against physical, emotional, and spiritual temptations and attacks.
Satan has quite the bag of tricks and will try them all to attack us and separate us from God. Rebuke the devil in Jesus’ name for protection for your husband against any attack from the enemy.
But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen you and protect you from the evil one. – 2 Thessalonians 3:3
9) Ask Our Lord that your husband would recognize his need to confess and repent for his sins.
Pray, also that he would confess to God and repent, rather than hiding it or letting guilt hold him back.
Then I acknowledged my sin to you
and did not cover up my iniquity.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.”
And you forgave the guilt of my sin. –
10) Pray that your husband will be a faithful spiritual leader in your home and family.
Many men struggle with this. Ask God to give your husband confidence, wisdom and compassion as he leads your family and his calling as the spiritual leader of your home and family.
But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. – 1 Corinthians 11:3
11) Pray for your husband’s relationship with your children.
Pray that your husband would have a loving, open and compassionate relationship with his children. Ask that your husband would communicate with them (men often have a hard time with this) and lovingly discipline them.
As a father has compassion on his children,
so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him; – Psalm 103:13
12) Appeal to Our Father for Him to provide for your husband emotionally, practically and financially.
And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:19
13) Ask God for His will to be done in your husband’s life.
We often think we know how our life should go and pray for all to go according to our plan, but we really should be praying that God’s will (and our husband’s) be done in our lives. Remember always that no matter how things may look, He is working all things out for good.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28
Tips for Praying for Your Husband
If you haven’t been in the habit of praying for your husband (except in times of need), here are four tips for praying for your husband.
1) Thank God for your husband.
Share with God how much gratitude you have for your husband and for God for loaning him to you. This is especially important when your husband is getting on your last nerve or he has sinned. Thank God for your marriage and for The Lord being at the center of it.
2) Advocate for your husband.
If you husband is struggling in an area (work, relationships, self-esteem, etc.) ask God for Him to intercede on your husband’s behalf. Whatever the situation or your husband’s need, lift it to our Heavenly Father who can do more than we can ask or imagine – no matter how the situation looks to us.
3) Ask God to make you a better wife.
It may be tough to face that there are areas that you can improve in. Ask God to reveal those areas to you. To shine a light on them and ask Him to help you in those areas. Listen to your husband, but most of all for God’s voice to bring these weak areas to mind and give you the strength and wisdom to recognize them and to change. God is at work in your life.
4) Don’t give up.
Even when you don’t feel God is at work, He is. If you don’t immediately see an answer to prayer, just wait. God may have something better in store for you. Pray daily for your husband – even when, especially when, you are angry with him or your marriage is in a challenging time.
How Praying for Your Husband Changes You
Prayer changes things and can have an incredible impact on your marriage. You may find that God changes your husband, but you’ll certainly find that it will change you, as well.
Praying for your spouse will:
Give you compassion
Praying for someone allows you to take off your blinders and see them as God does (see the note above about asking God to allow you to see your husband as He does). You may be furious with your husband. You may be displeased or even disgusted by his actions, but praying for them, softens your heart and may help you understand why he said or did what he did or why he may be feeling the way he does.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. – Galatians 6:2
Give you humility
This relates to the above about compassion, but when you pray for your husband, you are putting their needs and heart before yours. It’s hard not to feel humble when you are going to The Father on behalf of another. Praying can remove pride or ego from your heart.
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud
but shows favor to the humble.” – James 4:6
Remind you that prayer is not a magic trick, it is a vehicle for miracles
If you consistently pray for your spouse (and especially if your spouse is consistently praying for you, as well, you will see change and possibly even miracles. I’ve seen marriages on the brink of divorce, but when they recommitted their lives and marriage to The Lord and developed a habit of prayer, God performed miracles and the marriages came out stronger than ever. Prayer is our conversation with God. It is pouring our hearts out to Him. He listens and He answers. Not always in the way we want or expect, but He answers. Allow Him to work a miracle in your life and marriage through praying for your husband.
“Stretch out your hand to heal and perform signs and wonders through the name of your holy servant Jesus.” – Acts 4:30
Here’s a video you may enjoy about The Power of a Praying Couple
As with any prayer, begin by thanking God for your your blessings. Thank God for your marriage, for choosing your husband for you, for how he provides for your family. Then talk to God about working in your husband’s life. Talk with Him as you would a friend, after all God loves us!
Throughout the Bible, God instructs us to pray. If we are to pray for others, wouldn’t it make most sense to pray for the one that God chose as your lifelong partner?
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working” (James 5:16).
I encourage you to start praying for your husband every day. Commit to praying over one area of his life each day – not just in times of hardship.
For more on Christian marriage, consider my book, The God Centered Marriage.
Because of Him,
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