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Money and the Christian Marriage: 7 Tips to Avoid Conflict

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Money and differing opinions on how to manage it, has long been a top reason for divorce, even in Christian marriages. One spouse may be a spender, the other a saver. One may never balance a checkbook, the other balances it down to the penny and will spend hours tracking down purchases if the checkbook is off by just a few cents.


God gives us money through our vocations and other means, but it is up to us to be good stewards of that money. Are you and your spouse “on different pages” when it comes to money management?

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(For 12 biblical principles on money management, see this post)

Here are some tips to prevent money from being a thorn in your marriage:

  1. As with any topic, pray about money. Pray that God will help you manage it in a way that is pleasing to Him.
  2. No matter how tempting to keep separate accounts, have joint bank accounts. This encourages transparency and avoids secrets in how each of you spend your money. If you have separate bank accounts, how would you feel if your husband looked over your bank statements? If you have nothing to hide, you are on the right track. If you don’t want your husband to see how much money you spent at the mall or the craft store, I recommend praying about this issue and asking God to reveal to you what needs to change. Is it by combing your bank accounts? Setting aside time each month to look over each other’s statements? Perhaps, it is changing the way you spend money.

When money, including bank accounts, are separate, it encourages a “his and mine” mentality. This can be dangerous in a marriage and can provide the flint to spark fights in a marriage.

“Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” – Matthew 6:33

3. Talk with your spouse about money. Preferably before you get married, but even if you have been married for years, this is important. Discuss tithing, saving, priorities on what to spend money on. Decide who will pay the bills and what “checks and balances” you will put in place for accountability.

4. Keep good records of money. No matter which spouse manages the checkbook, both should know where to find important financial records and how to read them.

5. Together, increase your knowledge about money. Take a course, read a book about investing together, watch videos on how interest works.

6. Create a budget together. When you look at how the money in your house is being spent, you find opportunities to improve and plan for the future. It’s recommended that you look over your budget at least once a month to make sure you are staying on track. If you find that you are spending more (or less) every month on certain areas of your budget, it’s time to adjust the budget and look for additional ways to save.

7. Set guidelines for how to spend money. In my house, any purchase over $100 requires both spouses to agree. It may be more or less in your home, but if you set these standards in advance, you are less likely to have arguments later about how money is spent.

A note on tithing: If both spouses are Christians, they know that giving God the first tenth is commanded in the Bible. Tithing is God-ordained and our first priority should be pleasing Him. If you are married to an unbeliever, this area is a bit more tricky, but the wife is to submit to her husband in order to lead him to the Lord.

 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,

1 Peter 3:1-6

Since this issue can be quite a polarizing one for many marriages, the resources you seek should be biblical and proven. The below recommendations meet both criteria:

Money and the Christian Marriage: 7 Tips to Avoid Conflict 1
Money and the Christian Marriage: 7 Tips to Avoid Conflict 2

Money and the Christian Marriage: 7 Tips to Avoid Conflict 3
Money and the Christian Marriage: 7 Tips to Avoid Conflict 4

I continue to study what the Bible says about money and read reputable books and blog posts about Christian finance.

My favorites are Biblical Money Management and Managing Money God’s Way. The latter is a thirty one day devotional. Each day, focusing on a different insights, questions and discoveries on biblical money management. My husband and I are working our way through this together and love the biblical foundations for each concept.

The Biblical Money Management: What to do with a Rolls Royce Lifestyle, When You Live on a Honda Paycheck. There are tons of resources on managing money, teaching your kids about money, budgeting and what the Old and New Testaments say about money.

Both are solid for instructing on Christian finance.

Of course, many Christians are aware of the teachings of Dave Ramsey in regarding to Christian finance, particularly Financial Peace University. I have personally used his methods for paying down debt and am an advocate for most of his books.

Living on One Income

When speaking to groups about finance for Christians, I often hear women share that they wish they could stay home with their children. To be honest, that situation becomes more difficult in our society, but it is possible. You CAN live on one income, if you make the right choices.

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What would you add about managing finances in the Christian marriage? I’d love to hear from you.

For more on Christian marriage, consider my book, The God Centered Marriage.

Because He Lives,


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Depressed Wife

Monday 29th of November 2021

How do you do this when one spouse promises over and over to stay within budget and work toward a goal with you but never does what they say? In general my husband is not a man of his word about big things or small but it is especially depressing when it comes to our finances. My husband and I have been married for 3 and a half years and I feel like he has been dragging me down financially more and more. For about half of our marriage he has been unemployed. He wants no part of paying off our debt or planning for our future and spends hundreds of dollars each month on restaurants. He is working part time now and stays with our infant daughter during the day. The resentment has built up so much that I asked him today if we can separate our finances. He was very hurt and said no. I feel so trapped. If it weren't for our daughter, I would want out of the marriage completely.

Susan Nelson

Tuesday 30th of November 2021

I'm so sorry to hear this. I would recommend that you seek counseling from a Christian counselor or Pastor. And, first and continually pray. God does heal all things in His time. I am praying for you!

Victoria Durot

Thursday 21st of March 2019

What if your husband quit his job cause they were not paying him what he eas doing and not working at all, i feel he is not supporting me financially , im not able to work due to disability and dont earn enough to support us


Friday 22nd of March 2019

That's a tough one. Have you talked to him or sought Christian counseling? I'm praying for you, sister!


Thursday 26th of April 2018

Yes! Great tips for when it comes to money and marriage. Prayer especially and communication with each other, being on the same page is priceless when it comes to finances. Thank you for sharing :)


Thursday 26th of April 2018

You are very welcome! Money can cause such friction in a marriage but it doesn't have to be that way. Thanks for stopping by!


Thursday 15th of March 2018

Great post on a tough but necessary topic! I'm always perplexed when married couples keep individual accounts... Blessings to you as you share God's truth and encourage others to follow His lead in all things!


Thursday 15th of March 2018

I agree. Transparency and vulnerability increase intimacy - even in, especially in, regard to finances. Thanks so much for stopping by!

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