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Prayer for your Husband
As a Godly wife and child of God, the most powerful things you can do for your marriage is be in constant prayer for your husband. There is nothing more powerful than the power of a praying wife (except for God himself, of course). The Proverbs 31 woman “dresses herself with strength.” The greatest signifier of strength is the ability to let go of control in you and your husband’s relationship, handing it over to the heavenly father in prayer.
“She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.”
Proverbs 31:17 (ESV
“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.”
Proverbs 31:25 (ESV)
Prayer for your Husband
A marriage needs upkeep and maintenance effort from both sides. If you’ve ever driven past a house whose yard is overgrown in weeds, has siding falling off, dirty windows, etc., you can tell that nobody has been taking care of it for a while. You and your husband’s relationship works the same way.
If you are not giving your husband’s heart and your marriage over to the hands of God on a regular basis but just going through the motions every day, taking control into your own hands, the marriage will begin to fall apart, needing repair that only God can fulfill.
There are so many specific things that you can pray for for your husband. You can pray for your husband’s work, your husband’s life, say, “thank you for the gift of my husband,” pray for your husband’s heart, that he would have a sound mind as the spiritual leader of the entire family, and of course, whatever prayer request he comes to you with.
I have a very strong marriage and I am very thankful for that, but I strongly believe that it is, in part, due to the constant powerful prayer that I hold up to God on behalf of my husband and my marriage.
There is nothing more powerful than the ability to walk into the throne room of our heavenly father, in Christ Jesus’ name, and intercede on behalf of those we love, like family members, church community, and especially our spouses.
But praying for others can be hard, especially if you already have a hard time keeping a consistent line of communication between yourself and the Lord God.
What is Prayer?
Key to having a solid prayer life, and being in prayer for your husband, is going back to the basics and understanding what prayer is.
Prayer is simply daily communication with the Lord God, in the name of Jesus. It’s like talking to the people around us – sharing our thoughts, seeking advice in difficult times, and expressing our true selves. The only difference is that God cannot be seen, but He is always present and ready to listen. Just have a casual conversation with Him – no need for complex language or formalities. You can tell Him your secrets, ask for His help with anything that’s weighing on your mind, and claim the blessings He has in store for you. You are a child of God; He is your heavenly father.
Don’t let unnecessary barriers, like formal language and being overly serious, come between you and your Heavenly Father. You don’t necessarily even have to follow the typical “Dear God or Dear Lord… in Jesus’ name Amen” structure. When you speak to your earthly father, or even a friend, it’s not over a fancy dinner in a suit and tie.
God wants a personal relationship with you, so don’t hesitate to start a conversation with Him. He lovingly and carefully knitted you together in your mother’s womb and you carry the Holy Spirit, a piece of Him living within you; you are far from a stranger to him.
A Consistent Prayer Life
Keeping a consistent prayer life, full of powerful prayers, is not an easy feat, however, it is still something we are called to.
“Pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”
1 Thessalonians 5:17-18 (ESV)
“Praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end, keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints.”
Ephesians 6:18 (ESV)
“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.”
Romans 12:12 (ESV)
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”
Philippians 4:6 (ESV)
A great way to begin a habit of consistent communication with your Father God is to set a routine for yourself. For example, I do three things each morning over a cup of coffee:
1). Write scripture in a prayer journal
2). Bible study
3). Pray
I also pray when I’m in the car alone and throughout the day, participating in a conversation with God. At night, both with my husband and by myself, as I drift off to sleep. He is the last thing on my mind. Of course, we pray for blessings over meals, as well.
Your routine doesn’t have to look exactly like mine, for everybody has a different daily life and a different brain that gets them through it! A prayer guide that walks you through a daily time of prayer and allows you to write and keep track of specific prayers as you go might be a better way for you. If so, there are many options for prayer guides out there for you!
Whatever your days look like and however you best keep consistency in anything, not just prayer, there is no excuse to not keep an open line of communication between yourself and God.
Speaking of an open line of communication, the great thing about prayer is that our cries do not fall on deaf ears, as is made clear in the word of God.
“And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.”
1 John 5:14 (ESV)
“And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”
Matthew 21:22 (ESV)
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”
James 5:16 (ESV)
“When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles.”
Psalm 34:17 (ESV)
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.”
James 1:5-8 (ESV)
Let’s focus on just that last passage, James 1:5-8, for a moment. James, the half brother Jesus and lead elder of the church in Jerusalem, is instructing the twelve tribes of Israel in the testing of their faith. Of course, when navigating trials, a testing of our faith, we need to be able to make wise decisions. Wisdom is a necessary and powerful tool. So James is encouraging those that lack it to simply ask for it, for their heavenly father will give it to them.
In the same way, if you lack the natural attributes of a consistent prayer warrior, simply ask your Father God to help you! Through the Holy Spirit, we are equipped with everything we need to follow Christ Jesus (one of the many good things given to us by the Lord God). However, because of our sinful flesh, there is a battle that can make it difficult, in our humanness, to access everything we are equipped with. Good thing nothing is difficult for God.
An important part of this teaching in God’s word is that whatever we ask of God, we must “ask in faith, without doubting.” If you ask God for help in becoming a consistent prayer warrior, but only because nothing else has worked and it’s just your last resort, then you cannot expect to receive that help. In order to unlock the true power of prayer, you must trust in God with all your heart, knowing that he wants nothing more than to guide his children and build them into the image of Christ.
After all, God wants to hear from us, so why would he stop us?
Back to the specific of prayer for your husband, I have created an 8 day challenge to give you a kick start in this aspect of your spiritual journey.
8-Day Prayer Challenge
You may feel overwhelmed by the idea of taking on a challenge of prayer when you already struggle with basic prayer, but this structured challenge will not leave you in the dark. Upon signing up, you will receive a welcome email containing all the details. For each of the 8 days, you will receive an email that includes:
- Relevant scripture from God’s word
- Information on the challenge
- A prayer for your husband
- Journaling questions
- Music related to Christian marriage
On the 9th day, you will receive one last email with some bonus material including scripture memory cards, a coloring page, a printable poster, and bookmarks. This bonus material is designed to remind you to continue in daily prayer for your husband’s heart after the 8 days have finished.
The challenge is free, and the powerful prayers for your husband are priceless. Won’t you join us?
Extra Tips for the Challenge and Beyond
Here are a few things to help you get started with this challenge of prayer for your husband, as well as beyond the 8 days as you begin your walk unlocking the power of a praying wife.
Know Who You Are Praying To
Depending on background and spiritual maturity, people can have different understandings of who God is. Some may see him as an angry guy who just wants to control you, or maybe you see him as something like a genie in a bottle, ready to grant your every wish. First off, if you see him as the genie in the bottle, it may not be long until you start to see him as the angry control freak after you don’t get everything you ask for.
But you must understand that God is an unconditionally and everlastingly loving Father, surpassing even the greatest of loves and earthly father has for his children. He already knows every tiny little detail of our lives, but he wants to hear it from you! Refer back to the verses above for a reminder that he hears you, and answers you.
Be Intentional
Intentionality is an important factor in any endeavor. Whether you are starting a business, discipling a friend, or starting a journey towards consistent prayer for your husband, if you are not purposeful and decisive about it, you will not get very far.
Set aside a specific block of time that you will spend going through the daily content – the bible verse, information, prayer, journaling questions, and music – for each day of the challenge, and do not allow anything else to creep into that time. Get a friend to hold you accountable if needed.
When you are actively going through the daily content, don’t just go through the motions just to get it done. Be intentional in why you are doing this. You are doing this because you care about the condition of your husband’s heart as the spiritual leader of your home, and trust in your Father God over anything else, so pray like it, study like it, journal like it, etc.
Get Your Friends to Join With You
Another great way to become consistent in prayer is to do it with friends. Doing something with other people that you love and trust will both motivate you to keep going and hold you accountable. It can also allow you to dive deeper into the content as you and your friends talk about it. Many minds are greater than one! Share this post with your friends and start this journey together.
Don’t let the accountability and discussions end when the 8 day challenge ends though, keep it going! Have prayer for your husband’s, in the name of Jesus, become a part of your doing life together from now on.
Another one of the great things about doing this with friends, is that you can share prayer requests with each other throughout the process.
Drop the Formalities
A big thing that gets in the way of our prayer lives is the idea that we need to be serious and formal, like giving a speech in school for a grade. However, God is your Father, who loves you with an unconditional love. He doesn’t want to hear your rehearsed and robotic rundown of your day, containing only the things you think he would like to hear. He wants to hear from your heart. He gave you your personality, so use it!
Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, not every single prayer you pray has to follow the outline of “Dear God or Dear Lord… in Jesus’ name, Amen.” This can be more difficult for some depending on how you were raised and what you’ve been conditioned to believe, but prayer get’s a whole lot easier when you recognize that it is simply a conversation.
Jesus’ Example
When in doubt, follow Jesus’ example. Jesus was the ultimate picture of a prayer warrior, living in constant conversation with God. He prayed for others, prayed for God’s will to be done, and even let out his sorrows in difficult times to God. And we should do the same. After all, we are to strive to become more and more like the image of Christ, aren’t we?
Here are some specific prayers of Jesus in the word of God that we can model our own prayer after:
“Father, the hour has come; glorify your Son that the Son may glorify you, since you have given him authority over all flesh, to give eternal life to all whom you have given him. And this is eternal life, that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent. I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do. And now, Father, glorify me in your own presence with the glory that I had with you before the world existed.”
John 17:1-5 (ESV)
“Pray then like this: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.”
Matthew 6:9-13 (ESV)
“And about the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?” that is, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
Matthew 27:46 (ESV)
My prayer for you, in the name of Jesus, is that as you embark on this 8 day challenge, and thus a journey is consistent prayer for your husband, that you would grow in your personal relationship with God, feeling his unconditional love and experiencing the good things he has in store for you, as well as in your marriage, leaning on and walking in the Holy Spirit, and thus God’s will. May God give you a community of other strong, loving, Godly wives who will lift you up and encourage you in your marriage and walk with Christ. See you in the challenge!
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Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer by Sharon Jaynes
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Because of Him,
Sue
ESV – “Scripture quotations are from The ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.”
